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Current Date: February 20, 2040
Character: Sapphire Calae
Race: Human
Age: 29, physically about 23
Current residence: Arcadis Settlement, Iathea
I know that there are things I’ll be learning about until the end of my life, but I feel as though there are things I should have learned earlier in life and just didn’t. The things being learned have changed since the world has changed and we took to space and then settled on this planet too, but it doesn’t change the fact that there are things that I feel I should have known earlier in my life but I’m just now learning about them.
Maybe I’m just too hard on myself, that’s probably what that is. It’s hard not to be growing up the way I did, and I’m grateful for the patience of the very few people I feel safe enough to be relaxed around. Not even a handful of people that I truly trust; I might have been working with the same gathering team for years and I find something that resembles safety with them but I’m never fully relaxed, there’s always mild tension in my shoulders and I don’t know that this will ever go away. It has something to do with trauma and, like other things, I’ve learned to make my peace with it.
An odd way of doing things I’ve learned about recently is something called reverse psychology. I asked Inoru to explain it to me because I couldn’t make sense of what I was being told by Marlene. She told me that I was such a good worker that she didn’t need to use any sort of that thing on me, but it seemed to work wonders on a lot of our temporary workers, the ones who are younger and still not truly used to the idea of working to help the community.
In a general sense of things, from what I understand of it, reverse psychology is a bit when you tell someone the opposite of what you want them to do. Marlene explained it in a way that felt too complicated for me, but Inoru managed to put it into words that made more sense to me. I guess that I understand certain things better with visual explanations.
Say that you’re trying to get them to clean up their room, reverse psychology if I understand it properly, would be to tell that person not to clean their room, to give them a reason why they shouldn’t clean their room, and make it seem as though the best option is to really not do that thing because it’s bad. Somehow, this works on certain people, and they’ll do exactly the thing they were told not to do.
I don’t understand how it works, though. Maybe it’s because I’ve been conditioned to do what I’m told. I don’t do these things blindly and I do think everything over twice before I do it all, but if I’m told not to pick up a certain variety of berries because they’re dangerous, I’m not going to go out of my way to pick these berries, just because I’ve been told not to.
I guess that teens and maybe young adults who have had an easier—so to speak—life growing up than I did might have a more wilful nature. That’s what this has to be in the long run. Then again, I also find that I like being helpful and doing the gathering tasks just makes me feel useful; feeling useful makes me forget about the things we’ve left behind on Earth and trust me, that’s for the best.
It’s been a really long time now—I know that as well as everyone else—but the sort of trauma I’ve gone through will never truly be erased. I might not think about it often—I’ll be honest, thoughts of the whole ordeal have only come up three or four times since we’ve landed here—but it still has shaped me into the man I am, and my behaviour reflects that.
I’ve been told that therapy could probably help, but I feel that my behaviour isn’t so bad at current that I don’t desperately need help. I don’t even know if I could talk about it. Inoru was the one who got me away from it all and I never told him about it; he knows the gist of what was happening because he was part of the slight group of people who bought my time—for my safety, in his case—but he was never told the details of things.
At this point, and possibly until the end of my life, I think it will truly just be a matter of taking things one day after the other; I deal with whatever comes my way as it does come my way, and I have help from the people who matter to me. I don’t think I can ask for anything else.